The Freedom of Knowing your Limits
In creating my course, the Blueprint, I needed to produce an e-cover, which is graphic design branding.
Because I’ve dabbled in so many things, including I thought I could produce something that would be useful.
But then day after day went by and I hadn’t done anything.
My course needed to launch soon, and I had no branding. No e-cover
I finally decided to go to Fiverr and find someone to do the e-cover.
The person did a terrific job for not a lot of money (at least to me).
Everyone won.
I got my e-cover.
The designer got paid, and the customer will get a great experience.
The entire exercise taught me something else.
There was freedom in knowing my limits.
One of the fatal flaws of smart people is the belief that they can do it all.
I could have produced an e-cover, and it would have been acceptable. But it wouldn’t have been as good as what that contractor produced because that’s his field. It’s what he does every single day.
Men can have a real problem admitting that they need help because many of us were taught it’s a sign of weakness.
Hopefully, most of us know that those messages are not only wrong but incredibly crippling for any man that wants to grow and get better.
You will not do so alone — you need help.
Sometimes the help comes in the form of a therapist, coach, mechanic, repair person, or just a friend. Many men have found themselves starting something only to abandon it because the job became overwhelming. They got as far as they could, alone.
Collaboration was always the master plan of the Creator.
I recall trying to put together a piece of furniture for my daughter, and I failed. I couldn’t put it together because there were pieces missing, as we bought it used.
My daughter’s uncle and grandmother tried to make me feel inept because I failed. I didn’t boll up in a corner and sulk, but it reminded me about how crappy men get treated when they don’t fit a societal norm. It produces men who underachieve, are emotionally unbalanced, unhappy, unhealthy, unnecessarily stressed, and end up getting themselves and others in trouble because they are trying to do too much.
I can put together some things, I’ve put together desks, beds, chairs, and the list goes on. It’s nice to learn, but I also know my limits. And I have no problem paying someone to come and help me.
I made a decision that I would no longer move without help.
My back has been thanking me ever since.
We all have to understand our limits, and even though it seems to constrain, it is freeing.
When you stop trying to do everything, you end up doing your real work, the thing you are here to do.
I outsource as much of my tasks as I can, and now I’m free to create, which is what I want to do.
Learn your limits so you can get free.
